Comments on: One must not treat children like adults

By: Rule, Brittaniea ☆ Springtime down in the ‘Trose

Rule, Brittaniea ☆ Springtime down in the ‘Trose — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 04:35:53 +0000

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By: Dr. Pants

Dr. Pants — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 21:29:08 +0000

I have been trying very hard, when ordering, to ask, “May I please have…?” rather than “I need…” or “Give me…”

By: cortney

cortney — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 21:28:35 +0000

My ex was a waiter in college and worked for Starbucks for several years… and was the worst tipper I’ve ever known. We went out to eat for my birthday and the check came to about $80. He left the waiter NOTHING because he said the guy talked to the other table too much. I dropped a ten on the table, and all hell broke loose… ugh. Anyway.

By: Formica

Formica — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:59:49 +0000

I lived that and I tell all my students every year the same thing!
The BEST advice!

By: Brittanie

Brittanie — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:44:57 +0000

I still stand by the belief that everyone should be required to work in food service at least once in their life. It builds character and sympathy.

By: Formica

Formica — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:42:09 +0000

On that note, my parents’ wisdom, oft repeated:

Mom: “You can always tell a person’s class by how they treat the help.” (Translation: “Only the nouveau riche will treat the salesgirl poorly, trying to put distance between themselves and from whence they just came. “Nice” people, aka those “from nice families,”[ha!] are nice to *everyone.* You’re not better than someone just because you’re blessed to not have to wear old clothes, honey.”)

Dad: “Don’t insult the chef. He’ll spit in your soup!” (Dad was a Marine Colonel. A little more straightforward than my gentile mother)

Different motives (social class standards adherence vs negative stimulus avoidance), but same results!

Mom was (is) classy and wise.
And Dad tipped *very* well. ;)

By: Brittanie

Brittanie — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:19:23 +0000

You tell me. I’m a former waitress and bartender! The curse of death is when a customer tells you “I’m going to tip you reeeeal good. That always means they won’t tip at all.

By: Pull the Plug

Pull the Plug — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 04:35:04 +0000

You can tell a lot about people by how they treat the waiters at restaurants. It’s a very reliable method of determining who’s nice and who’s not.